Having a parent or loved one who is no longer able to live alone safely can be an incredibly stressful time for everyone involved. – Especially when the reason is due to Alzheimer’s or dementia. You may be wondering how you can ensure your parent is taken care of when they move into a Boise Memory Care Community. You could also be wondering what your future interactions will look like when your parent moves into memory care or assisted living.
You may have several questions including
- How often should you visit?
- How long should your visits be?
- What should you talk about?
All of these questions and more could be running through your head. While there is no right answer or single solution to these problems, at a Boise Memory Care Community like Emerson House at Riverpointe, we are happy to help with all of your questions.
How Often Should You Visit Your Parent in Boise Memory Care
The positive benefits of visiting a loved one in memory care
There are many reasons why visits to your loved one should continue while they are in a Boise Memory Care Community or nursing home. Memory care research shows that even though your loved one may not recognize you, they can still gain a lasting, positive impact from your visit. They may be able to recognize you even if they can’t express it. They may remember how often you visit them even if they don’t remember how you are connected to them. They likely enjoy getting visits, and opportunities to socialize can often help them feel relaxed and positive. People with Alzheimer’s still have emotional memory, enabling them to remember how events have made them feel, even if they can’t remember the details of the event anymore. Visits help improve your loved one’s mood, their sense of belonging, and their self-esteem.
Tips on deciding the frequency of visits
Now that we know that visits are helpful even though your loved one may no longer be able to remember you, the next question is how often? Again, there is no one answer to this question. It will vary from person to person. It will depend on your own work, family, life commitments, as well as the distance you have to travel. However, the memory care specialists at Boise Memory Care Community can give you some excellent guidelines on this too.
Usually, it is recommended that when your loved one first transitions into a home, like Boise Memory Care Community, you will want to visit as often as every day for the first two weeks. This is as much for your own peace of mind. When you visit often, you get to see their quality of care. Not only that, but your presence will be a calming factor even if they can no longer remember who you are. If daily visits are not an option for you, remember that the quality of the stay is much more important than the frequency.
As your loved one settles into their new home, you can feel comfortable in decreasing the number of visits. According to memory care experts, loved ones with dementia respond favorably when they have a predictable routine. Therefore, try to arrange your visiting times so you create a regular schedule that your loved one can depend on. Ideally, your visits will occur during a time of day when your loved one is most receptive to visitors and end when they have an activity or meal to attend so that they will be attended to when you leave.
How to make the most of your time visiting with your loved one
As stated before, the quality of your visits is the most important thing. Try and make your visits pleasant. Introduce yourself and use your loved one’s name often while speaking with them. Maintain eye contact throughout the conversation, so they know they are being heard. Use touch and loving expressions to show them how much you care. Bring old photo albums to stimulate happy memories, or talk about their previous interests.
Having a loved one in memory care is a difficult time for everyone involved. You can have the peace of mind of knowing that at a Boise Memory Care Community like Emerson House at Riverpointe, we are committed to providing a safe, supportive, and enriching environment for your loved one. We always welcome any questions and want to do our best to ensure your loved one with the individual care that their situation requires.